STD doesn’t have to end woman’s sex life

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DEAR ANNIE: I am a 68-year-old woman who has been divorced for more than 30 years. I haven’t been in an intimate relationship for the past 10.

 

Last year, I discovered that I have genital herpes. The doctor said I may have had it for years before experiencing symptoms. I was devastated. When I have an outbreak, I take medication that shortens the discomfort, and I decided not to have intimate contact anymore. I’m quite busy with my retirement lifestyle and very content.

 

Here’s the problem: Through a friend, I recently met an interesting man my age. I don’t want to tell him about my personal medical history, but I also don’t want him to think I’m a prude. We went out casually once, and he has called since, but I have put him off. I can’t decide whether I should see him again and whether I should tell him I have an STD and let him decide whether he wants a “friend without benefits.” What do you suggest? — K.

 

DEAR K.: It seems a shame to end your sex life because you fear transmitting an STD. There are ways to avoid that. And your future partner may be more understanding than you realize. Please contact the American Sexual Health Association (ashasexualhealth.org) for information on all STDs, including herpes, and for support in communicating with potential partners.

 

DEAR ANNIE: How do you tell a doctor that his office is dirty? My physician’s office is full of dust, cobwebs, smudged fingerprints and dirty sinks. It looks as if it hasn’t been cleaned in years.

 

He is a good doctor and has helped me many times, but I can hardly walk into that office without gagging. What should I do? — Love the Doc, Not His Office

 

DEAR LOVE THE DOC: You have to tell him. All of that dirt means that equipment that needs to be sterile isn’t, and who knows what germs you are breathing in during an exam? This puts your health at risk. Also, how many patients has he lost because of the condition of his office? And if your doctor cannot see the dirt surrounding him, he may have a vision problem that needs correcting, although it’s more likely he either doesn’t have a cleaning staff or they don’t do a good job.

 

Does your doctor have an assistant or receptionist? Direct your complaint to that person. If there is no one else in his office, please have the courage to speak up during your next visit. Tell the doctor that his office could use a good cleaning, and suggest that his current cleaning service be replaced. If things don’t change, report him to your local health department.

 

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