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Holiday Blues? How to Beat Depression During the Holidays
Holiday Blues? How to Beat Depression During the Holidays
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Article Author : Melanie Fleury (August 2, 2013)

You may really want to enjoy the holiday season and take part in the festive celebrations for which this time of the year is intended. However, when you feel more sad and despondent during the holidays, you actually may be suffering from depression. People who suffer from depression often experience a worsening of their symptoms during this time of year. You can cope with, if not overcome, your depression when you follow several key pieces of advice.


Avoid Alcohol Consumption

You may be tempted to drown your sadness and lack of interest in liquor. However, consuming alcohol, even in small amounts, should be the last thing you should do when you are feeling depressed. Alcohol is a natural depressant and can only aggravate your symptoms. As much as you may crave a beer or a shot of whiskey, you should avoid this temptation and choose another beverage instead.



Gauge Social Tolerance

Your ability to tolerate being around others can change frequently during the holidays. One day you may be able to tolerate being around your friends and relatives; the next day, the thought of having company or spending time with others could turn your stomach. You should decide on a daily basis how much you can put up with being around other people. When you need to be alone, try to go home or find a place where you can enjoy solitude. Do not force yourself to be social if you are not in the mood for company.



Look Past the Holidays

It may seem like the holidays go on forever. However, they are actually just a few short weeks out of your schedule. Try focusing on the weeks after Thanksgiving and Christmas. In fact, many people begin their tax preparations in January. You could get a jump start on doing your taxes by using this activity as a diversion from the holidays.



Avoid All Things Holiday

You may not be able to go to the grocery store or the mall without being inundated with seasonal reminders. If you still need to purchase gifts, you can do online for gifts and decor and skip the stores altogether. Even so, when you are at home or driving to work, you should try to avoid all hints of the holidays. Turn off Christmas movies on TV, and change the radio station when the station starts to play Christmas music. You can turn on an all-news channel instead.



Accept and Embrace

Sometimes the best cure for your depression during Christmas is just to accept the season and embrace it for what it is. Sometimes seasonal depression results from intense narcissism and the inability to focus on others in your life during this time of year. If you have children, try focusing on their joy when they unwrap presents. If you plan to visit family on Christmas, think about how happy they will be to see you. Preventing yourself from thinking only about yourself and your misery can help you begin to enjoy the holidays.


Many people like you suffer from depression during the holiday season. You can make the season more tolerable, if not more enjoyable, by remembering these important suggestions.

Melanie Fleury has watched family members go through depression during holiday times. For her family, the solution was to find joy in the giving and not to dwell on what was missing. She found that decorating with decor that celebrates family, and finding shopping sites like, helps to spread Christmas cheer to others while cheering up yourself.

Better Sex

How to Give Yourself a Better Sex Life in Fou...
    A good sex life is important for your emotional health, as well as all areas of your wellbeing, but as we’re British, it can be difficult to talk about sex, or get the help we need to make it better. There’s no shame in trying to better understand your needs or those of your partner, and there are plenty of simple solutions to physically and emotionally enhancing your sexual wellness.   1. Understand your sexual needs, and communicate them to your partner. If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you’ll have realised just how vital communication is. This is no less true when it comes to sex, but it can be embarrassing to talk about what you want, or you may be worried about your partner’s feelings. You might assume your partner knows what you like in the bedroom, or you might not want to mention it if something doesn’t feel as good. This means you’ll have the same dreary sex life for years to come – unless you talk about it. Be honest about what works for you and what doesn’t, but do it in a way that will make you feel comfortable. This often involves using humour to ease the tension, as well as being honest and open to new ideas.   2. Try kegel exercises. The pubococcygeus (PC), which controls urine flow and contracts during orgasm in both men and women, is a muscle that works like any other; strengthening exercises will improve its function. There is a link between having a toned PC muscle and more intense orgasms, and performing kegel exercises can get you there. To find this magical muscle, see if you can start and stop the flow of your urine next time you’re on the loo (the PC muscle is the one that stops the flow). Then, try to tighten and hold this muscle for a slow count of three, or mix it up and try quick kegels by tightening and relaxing the muscle as rapidly as you can. This will gradually help you to gain more control and, as a result, better orgasms.   3. Masturbate. Masturbating will help you to understand your body, which is information you can pass on to your partner. Plus, as a woman, you’re more likely to have an orgasm from self-pleasuring than intercourse. Start by masturbating until you feel your breathing increase, want to go very fast and want to thrust your pelvis. At this point, don’t aim for an orgasm but instead, stop and experience things for one or two minutes. After this, use light stroking and the kegels you have learned to stimulate yourself again, and then let yourself do whatever you wish!   4. Let your imagination run wild. You may not think you have any sexual fantasies but everyone is capable of them, and they are the most common form of sexual expression. According to their wealth of research, psychologists Harold Leitenberg and Kris Henning have noted the most popular sexual fantasies around, so why not consider these sexy scenarios?    
  • A stranger or imaginary lover: This involves a sexual partner who will do wonderful things to you without being asked and with no strings attached.
  • Romance novel sex: A lot of women fantasise about being taken against their will – in a way of being “won over” by a strong, passionate man rather than violent abuse. The force used is just enough to get a high level of excitement.
  • Different locations: A new place, be it in the great outdoors or at the office, gives you the excitement of being naughty.
How to Take the Lead and Be More Assertive Wi...
    As women, it can sometimes be difficult to take the lead in the bedroom. Many women feel as though it would be unfeminine to be assertive and initiate sex, but they couldn’t be further from the truth. There are a number of ways to make yourself heard in the bedroom and make your sex life more compatible with your needs - here are some of the ways to be a little more forthright with your partner and get the kind of sex life you’re looking for.  

Be more creative with your ideas

Men are known for being more imaginative when it comes to sex, but that doesn’t mean that it is a true representation of what women are like in the bedroom. If your sex life has become a little routine, it’s easy to jazz it up a bit. It’s all about confidence. You need to tell your partner exactly what you want from sex, what you think is missing, and what you want to do about it. Expressing your sexuality isn’t a bad thing, it simply means you know what you want from your sex life and you’re making changes to ensure that you get it. Men often find it a turn on to find that their partner is being bolder and more assertive - it puts you both on more of an equal playing field where sex is concerned.

Be expressive

The best way to communicate effectively is to have a good understanding beforehand of what it is you want to say or do. Spend some time beforehand thinking about what you want from your sex life, such as more intimacy or passion, then what it is you’d want from your partner in order to achieve that. You need to be at ease with what you’re asking for before you speak to your partner about it. Being expressive isn’t limited to just your likes though - if there is an aspect of your sex life you aren’t happy with, or something your partner does which you don’t enjoy, tell them. Speaking about these issues is the only way to change them.

Give feedback

On that note, giving feedback is a great way of airing any issues between you both which have arisen in the bedroom. Men, in particular, are renowned for not being great at taking hints, so if you’re trying to be subtle its most likely failing. You don’t need to be rude or derogatory about their sexual style - a simple talk about what you both want more or less of is often quite effective. You can also use your body language to show them what you enjoy and don’t, so that they have a better understanding of how to please you.

Share your fantasies

Everyone has sexual fantasies, yet we very rarely share them with our partners. This can be a great bonding session to increase the intimacy between you both, as well as being a fantastic way of spicing up your relationship. Set the mood, perhaps by having a romantic evening together, then you’ll both feel relaxed to share your innermost sexual desires. You may even be inclined to act on some of them, helping to increase the bond between you and improve your
sex life. This is a simple way to be more assertive and tell your partner exactly what you want from them out of your sex life, without feeling as though you have to do it on your own. By sharing together, you’re both as vulnerable as each other so the trust is equal.  


Tips and Tricks for Making Your Best Features...
  The key to real beauty isn’t looking the same as everyone else—it is embracing what makes you look unique and highlighting your best features. Very few women like everything about their bodies, but you can find something to love whether it is your legs, your skin, or your eyes. Here are some tips for making the most of your best features.  


If you have a great head of hair, make a point of emphasizing it. Have you noticed that women who are known for their great tresses (like Kate Middleton and Jennifer Aniston) usually wear their hair down? If you have great hair, keep it clean, grow it out, and keep your hairstyles simple. Low-key makeup and understated jewelry will also give your locks the opportunity to shine.  


Make your eyes pop by using a little bit of white eye shadow or liner on the inside corners of your eyes. Make sure to avoid using too much dark eyeliner—lining all the way around your eyes will make them look smaller. When you are applying makeup it is usually a good idea to pick one feature to accent and keep the rest of your makeup pretty neutral. Use
eye shadow that compliments your eye color to make your eyes pop and keep your lip color neutral.  


If you want to highlight your smile instead of your eyes, keep your eye makeup simple and go for bold lips. Red lipstick will make your teeth look brighter and draw attention to your mouth. Off- white jewelry like pearl earrings can also make your smile appear whiter. If you don’t think bright red lipstick is your thing, don’t worry, you can still highlight your great smile. Light and nude colors of lipstick make your lips look fuller and a simple gloss will make them look moist and healthy.  


If you want to highlight your glowing skin, take good care of it by keeping it hydrated. Drink plenty of water, use moisturizer at night and during the day, wear sunscreen, and avoid tanning booths. It is also wise to go easy on the alcohol since it can sometimes leave your face looking a little red. If you are looking for something a little more intense then cosmetic surgery might be right up your alley. Many cosmetic surgery businesses also offer non-surgical procedures to help take care of your skin whether you need a tattoo removed or you just want to get rid of some acne. These companies also offer botox, chemical peels, and tools to help you get rid of varicose veins. Everyone has different needs, but taking good care of your skin will improve your appearance and make you look younger.  


If you have fantastic arms, take a cue from Michelle Obama—sleeveless sheath dresses are your friends. Halter tops and racer-back tanks also make your arms look great because they show off your shoulders. If you are looking for an option that shows less skin, pick shirts with long sleeves or loose fabric. If you go with short sleeves, make sure they come down to at least your bicep. Avoid cap sleeves—they cut off your arms at the widest spot. Even if you are strong and toned, cap sleeves will make your arms look bigger, fatter, and bulkier than they really are.  


If you have a curvy, classic hourglass figure, make the most of it by embracing wrap dresses, lower necklines, and pencil skirts. While big flowy shirts might be more comfortable, they make you look larger than you really are. Stick to fitted tops, or throw on a belt to accentuate your waist.  


If you have great legs, show them off with shorter skirts or a pair of shorts. If your legs are nice and toned, but kind of short, use a nude pair of heels to make them look longer. If you aren’t comfortable showing a lot of skin, try Phentermine 37.5 to help you slim down into those skinny jeans. A sleek and sexy pair of skinny jeans or leggings that still show off the great shape of your legs can make a world of difference for your confidence.   Everyone is different and each individual body type can differ significantly. Find what you love about your body, and use these tips and tricks to highlight your best features.  
Focus on Fashion...
  Written by Jenny Catton   With the price of fashion falling all the time, it’s become easier than ever for many people to buy new clothes on a monthly or even weekly basis. And when fashions change so quickly, the longevity of an item of clothing is shorter than ever. Many fashion followers wouldn’t dream of wearing last season’s outfits. But what happens to all of the old clothes we throw away? Well sadly, many end up in landfill. In fact, studies have shown that every year in the UK around 2.35 million tonnes of clothing and textiles are wasted with up to 30kg per person going to landfill.   So how can you play your part in cutting the amount of perfectly good clothes that are thrown away each year? Here are some ideas.  
  • Mend clothes instead of throwing them away
  • Rather than buying new outfits, update your old ones by creating new combinations or accessorising in different ways
  • Recycle old clothes by donating them to charity rather than throwing in the bin
  • Hold clothes swapping parties with your friends
  • Check you don’t already own something similar before buying a new item
  As well as cutting the amount of clothes you throw away, it’s also important to think about how to care for your clothes. You can help the environment by washing clothes at low temperatures and let them dry naturally rather than using an electric dryer.   For ideas on how to mend or reinvent your old clothes, take a look at    


How To Cope With Depression And Anxiety After...
  We all face challenges in life, but how do you recover when a debilitating injury has left you unable to enjoy life the way you once did? After a major injury, you may experience feelings like sadness, anger, denial, worry, and fear. Fortunately, there are several things you can do to help yourself recover and get back to the life you once enjoyed.

Acknowledge Your Emotions

Acknowledging that it is normal for you to feel sad, helpless, or anxious, can go a long way in helping you recover. Try not to hold these feelings back. Surround yourself with supportive people who will listen to you and help you work through these feelings without judgment. Allow yourself time to accept what has happened, and do not try to rush the recovery process.

Don't Push Yourself Too Much

It's natural to want to do the same things as before the accident as quickly as possible, but it's important to understand that it won't happen soon, and things may never be the same. Don't be afraid to say “no” to things you could have easily done before. Don't push yourself physically or emotionally to avoid more stress.

Talk to a Counselor

Counseling can be a very effective tool in helping you deal with your emotions after the injury. However, many people feel uncomfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings with a complete stranger. Remember, talking to a third party can help you get an objective look at your situation and show you what steps to take to improve your condition. Your counselor can also advise you of any beneficial support groups you can attend.

Stay Active & Healthy

Staying active has proven to help the symptoms of depression and anxiety. Talk to your doctor about what kind of physical activities would be beneficial for you to enjoy while recovering from your injury. Also, make sure you are eating a well-balanced diet and avoid the use of alcohol or drugs. It can also be beneficial to engage in some of the hobbies you enjoyed before the injury such as painting or reading.

Consider Speaking to a Lawyer

After an injury, the last thing you may want to endure is a long legal battle. However, if the injury is no fault to your own, you deserve a chance to rectify the wrongdoing. There are lawyers in your area who are committed to helping their clients cope with life after the accident and receive any compensation they may be entitled to.   Depression and anxiety after a major injury can cause normally productive, socially active, independent people to withdraw into a world of emotional pain that is often far greater than the physical pain they are experiencing. However, by following a few of the suggestions above, it is possible to find yourself enjoying life again free of your psychological handicaps.   Informational credit to Howard Yegendorf & Associate.  
Could Depression be Linked to Disease Resista...
Diseases such as cancer are thought to be best treated using both the body and the mind, in order to boost the immune system in every way. Our immune systems do far more than simply fend off the common cold. Social support, for example, can significantly improve a person’s condition and extend the life of a cancer patient. In studies looking at victims of cancer, researchers found that women who attended support groups lived twice as long as those who didn’t, on average. A study in Los Angeles at the University of California found that patients who had survived cancer for a minimum of five years and attended group therapy lived three times as long as those who didn’t attend any therapy sessions. It seems that relying on others to boost our mood when we’re ill could help us fight conditions and diseases far more effectively. When people are grieving, their T-cells and the natural killer cells in the body, both of which are important for defending the immune system, function far less effectively. By being supported and comforted by friends and family members, this aspect of the immune system may well be bolstered. However, people who are depressed and anxious may suffer the opposite effect.    

In a study involving 4825 healthy individuals, 146 of them were depressed. In those who had been depressed for a minimum of six years, the chances of developing cancer were far higher. This is thought to be because of the fact that this condition kills of the natural ‘killer’ cells, so the body doesn’t fight off diseases. This isn’t to say that depression can cause cancer, but it does signify that depression and related issues such as anxiety can lower one’s immunity to the disease. This makes it not only a risk for cancer, but also other diseases. There are however other theories that suggest that cancer may cause depression, with a study discovering that in 43 liver tumour patients there was a direct link between clinical depression and an immune modulator. The chemical which is released when our immune system fights cancer is the same substance that may trigger depression biologically. Although this may seem like bad news, it is actually the opposite. It provides researchers with new tools for treating cancer - it also highlights the link between the mind and other diseases. Taking the time to meditate and de-stress is important in order to strengthen the immune system, so that we can better fight off illnesses.

Leading a stress-free lifestyle as best you can is one of the best ways to fight off anxiety and depression. This means doing plenty of exercise, which can boost your mood and release endorphins to keep you happy, as well as eating a balanced diet that’s rich in brain-healthy foods. Oily fish, plenty of fruit and vegetables, and omega-rich nuts and seeds will ensure that you’re happy through your food. Take time to meditate and relax at least a few times a week, so that you don’t overload your mind with worries and stress - this can be anything from some alone time each week to spending time with friends and loved ones. Lowering your stress levels and ensuring you lead a healthy lifestyle will not only help to reduce the risk of depression but it will also stave off other health concerns such as heart disease, stroke and certain cancers. If you think you’re at risk of developing depression, or think you’re displaying signs of cancer, speak to your GP as soon as possible for advice on the situation.